“Can these DVD’s go? I’m pretty sure the last time we watched
I make this plea + ask questions like this a lot. If you want to see me smiling from ear to ear with euphoria and shouting “hell yes!” around the house like a crazed ’80s aerobic instructor — just give me things to donate. (Ok, there might be some other things that make me shout happy expletives).
The Hubs usually sneers my way, “You just can’t stop, can you?” He eventually tries to find humor in my obsession with throwing everything out that we don’t use on a regular basis.
He’s right though. It’s hard for me to stop.
But not stop tossing things into a box for donation.
It’s hard for me to stop questioning the “things” we think we need in our life.
Now, maybe – just maybe – I was born with some gene that can’t stand clutter (is there a clutter gene?).
And, maybe – just maybe – my childhood was so chaotic the only “control” I thought I had was in my own little bedroom where I plastered pictures of Jonathan Taylor Thomas and kept my room as clean as a military inspection (yeah, I’m talking hospital corners, y’all + The Vic was a marine, so there’s that).
Or, maybe – just maybe – as I grew up I saw the importance and ease that can go along with lack of clutter.
Couple that with my wanderlust weakness and a penchant to give into my Gypsy-soul on a whim –
Let’s not get anything twisted here though – in no way am I saying that minimalism is the life for you.
Hell, some people thrive in chaos (or, so I’ve been told).
But this is where people can get minimalism all jumbled up.
It’s not about becoming best friends with your local donation drop-off because you’re constantly giving stuff away.
It’s not about reading Marie Kondo’s book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” and overhauling your entire life. Or maybe it is if that’s your style.
It’s not about giving away your dead grandma’s broach because you don’t technically use it all the time.
And it’s definitely not about living in a space with only little to no furniture while one lonely book hangs out on your bare shelf.
My view of minimalism is about QUESTIONING the “things” you think you need in your life.
The areas where you couldn’t cram another thing in, but you just bought something to stuff in there.
And that doesn’t just go for shoe boxes and your 10th black t-shirt.
That goes for emotional stuffing, too.
So, if you’re staring at a heap of clothes in your closet with tags still on them…
Or a tower full of DVD’s collecting dust…
Start questioning them.
Start questioning everything in your house and in your life.
Because questions usually lead to answers (although we might not like the answer that bubbles up).
Ready for some contemplation? Here are some simple tips to get the mental motor runnin’ + movin’:
• If you’re a get-stuff-done-right-now type of person then start questioning everything in your house. Start when the sun comes up and don’t stop questioning every little damn thing you have until you’re done. Take action on the things that you think you don’t need anymore/aren’t serving you/don’t feel all that inspired by.
• If you’re an easy-does-it type then start in your smallest closet and question the ever-living shit out of every towel, washcloth, and pillowcase you have in there. And work your way through your entire house over time. (Dedicate one day a week if you need to start small and not be overwhelmed by the process).
Leave nothing un-questioned.
Just the act of questioning will kick the dust up – in your home and in your mind.
Because as Alice Hoffman drops some uncomfortable truth, “Once you know some things, you can’t unknow them. It’s a burden that can never be given away.”
And I’ll add, some of those burdens you can totally donate the hell out of!
Love + Minimalism,
PS – Here are a couple resources I LOVE for decluttering, organization and all-around minimalism lifestyle inspiration –
Marie Kondo: her book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” as well as her Netflix show “Tidying Up With Marie Kondo” is pure gold. And watching Marie (I’m using her first name like I actually know her) on her Netflix show will warm your heart + see how much she truly cares for a life that’s more organized + sparked with joy.
The Minimalists: these two dudes (Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus) are packin’ when it comes to all things minimalist lifestyle. From their podcast to their books there’s something in there for anyone looking to question the clutter and go super deep on this subject.